Thursday, April 17, 2014

Perceptions

    Sometimes I wonder how others would describe me. I know I can barely describe myself since there is an exception to nearly everything, but others may be able to pinpoint it better. As far as I know, it's easier for others to describe someone than it is for someone to describe themselves. Though how I would describe some people involves certain..exceptions, too, but, well. I know that I have some habits that, if people didn't know me, might irritate them otherwise; which is why I tend to be more quiet until I know someone. Really, in this case I mean how I am when I think to have upset someone, and how I might have a bit of an issue letting it go until I'm sure one way or the other. Things like that I can describe, but others, not so much. So sometimes I wonder how people perceive me, what they think I think of them, and other things like that.
    Perspective changes from person to person, and depending on the relationship one has with someone, that changes the perception even more. From casual to friendly to romantic and everything else, people see whoever differently for that reason. I try to keep that in mind when I meet people, try to not judge right away, so first impressions only mean but so much to me. It's the second and third meeting that matters to me. Maybe I'm strange for that, but with how you view someone and how that can change, it makes it difficult to just go off the first impression. So sometimes when my mind wanders, I think on how people who are closer to me see me, and if it's anything like how I see myself. Some people shape themselves and pretend to be someone they aren't in SL, which makes things all the more different if such is found out. I can't say much on why people would weave elaborate lies, other than maybe because they aren't happy with who they are or because they want to play games with people. I do wonder on that, but I can't really have anyone to ask on that, at least I really hope not. Maybe I'll put more thoughts up on that later, if I come up with some.

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  1. how other people would describe you...never ever give a damn about how they would, it doesn´t matter who they see, it only matters who you are. and don´t give a damn either if you´d irritate them. their problem.
    'So sometimes I wonder how people perceive me, what they think I think of them...' now you´re clearly -over-thinking again :P
    the thing with the 1st, 2nd, 3rd impressions, guess you got a point there, but the 1st impression you get of someone will matter much if there even will be a 2nd or 3rd impression, often my view on someone changes with more impressions, yes, but most often the 1st impression at least proves right with if I like someone or not, nevermind what depths and chasms open up in regard to a person later :P still there are exceptions, yes, rl as much as sl.
    'So sometimes when my mind wanders, I think on how people who are closer to me see me, and if it's anything like how I see myself.' I see how that could be interesting to know, still you shouldn´t give a damn and maybe it´s better to not know to not get influenced.
    the making-up in sl (there is in rl as well, though it´s much easier in sl, sure, but as a pro :P you know we all play all kinds of roles in rl too), well, it has two sides, for instance someone I play with sometimes has or had in their profile they are slow because of typing one-handed, I think there are many people in sl who have different kinds of troubles, physical handicaps, sicknesses, as much as psychological ones, and if someone who sits in a wheelchair rl or is in some dead-end with their life, for instance, doesn´t want any of that in their sl and makes up something they feel good with, why not, if they don´t harm anyone with it, I don´t see a real problem with it and it might help them big time to have some part of their life normal and as they wish it to be, if it´s something that can´t be changed rl already.

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    1. Yea, I know, I shouldn't care, but my curiosity gets the better of me lol
      As for the impressions, yea, ya do have a point, but, like you said, there are some exceptions like with people who you 'have' to interact with on a daily basis that your'e impression has more of a chance to change. Though, yea, the 1st does lead to lead if there's a chance for more or if you generally like the person or not...so, yea, you've a point there.
      I hadn't meant with disabilities, since that makes perfect sense, being able to go do stuff without others knowing you have something or other going on, like can't walk or however else, is a positive of SL, but what i meant was more...the people who do pretend for no good reason other than to screw with others or something.

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  2. for clarification: not talking about people who establish friendships in sl and when they mess up something in their sl just vanish without a word and have fun on some alt while their friends worry about what happened to them. and don´t let me mention those profiles we all saw telling you the person died rl and passed their account to someone else playing it now (ok, it is allowed to give an account to someone when you die with LL's blessings, but really now...using that account instead of just putting something in loving memory of the person who passed and gave you the account to tell their sl-friends they are gone? that seems so sick to me that I don´t believe it happens as often as some profiles want you to believe, especially if you know said people who owned an account, if my brother or anyone whose account SL would allow me to 'take over' for them would die...how could I -use- that account, other than put a message in it so people who were his friends and might worry where he´s been would know? no way, really). that kind of thing, along of course with all the 'cheating' of people in ic and ooc manner with using alts and 'making up' and making them believe, that they are with someone in 1 2nd Life while they are with someone else in a 2nd and 3rd and 4th 2nd Life, that goes on as everyone knows, that´s the kind of made-up things that do harm people. if relationships are strictly rp, that works and people can with some right say it isn´t their char X's ic-partner A's business if their char Y is with partner B, and one of the purposes and good things sl offers is to try out things, slip into different skins, literally and otherwise, but if a relationship is more than rp, some kind of considerateness should be a given. and if you know you are going to cheat anyhow from experience or because you want to, you should at least do your best to make strictly clear from the start that it´s rp and nothing more and maybe even be fair enough to tell partner C that you already have two alts who are in a serious ic-relationship with two other people A and B, then if both´s expectations for even ic-relationships meet it´s all fine and if not, C can rethink and you can go on to D, who has the same attitude on rp, sl and all the rest as you. the feelings and the hurt, even if only the feelings and hurt felt through one´s roleplay character, are real enough. that seen from a longterm roleplayer´s and sim admin´s side would make sims much less dramatic and suffering from severe meltdowns, as those things often are reason for severe disintegration not only for the immediately concerned people with all their alts but also for their friends often. and, hell, if you mess up: it happens, in rl as much as in sl, and any adult should treat both the same then: stand up for it and tell the one you messed up with what´s up instead of sneaking away, or even claiming you´re dead (what the hell! lol) and returning with yet another alt and don´t let admins sort out your mess for you (ok, point sneaking back with an alt and getting admins to sort it only works in sl really not rl :P )and pull everyone standing close enough into it! lol yea, sorry, this was probably not even what you were getting at with that point, but, yea :P

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    1. Um...yes, to all of that. I agree completely lol Would be so much easier if people actually just...dealt with things instead of going all..how they do and such.

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  3. ok, so what was the actual point of the blog...you wonder how others would describe you and what others think you think of them?
    I´d describe you as a wonderful person (I think actually I used the same words and maybe 'she's lovely too on the occasions I said someting to you to someone, if I knew the dates I´d look it up, but I don´t :P) and I think you think I´m...special :P that must suffice then as the other comments were longer than the blog already :P

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    1. You'd look it up if you knew? Somehow that doesn't surprise me :P But, aw, is nice to know you think I am, even if I might argue :P
      And yes, I do think you're special...but a good kind of special, a wonderful special *grins*

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